Most of us are wondering what the purpose of our life is, but how often do we stop and ask,
- What is the purpose of the work I’m doing?
- What is the purpose of the muffin I’m eating right now?
- What is the purpose of what I’m about to say to my child in a moment?
- What is the purpose of this conversation with my customer?
- What is the purpose of the email I’m typing?
- What is the purpose of my playing Candy Crush right now?
- What is the purpose of rolling my eyes at the other person?
- What is the purpose of this Facebook status I’m about to post?
- What is the purpose of this entire day today?
- What is the purpose of this meeting I’m going to have now?
- What is the purpose of the next 5 minutes?
Our lives are made of a series of moments
In order to have a purposeful life, we need to have purposeful moments.
In order to have purposeful moments we need to become more conscious of what we do, how we behave and most importantly what our intentions are.
We are in charge of our lives, and of each of our moments.
What if you set an intention for every segment of your day?
- You can set an intention in the morning for what kind of day you’re planning to have.
- You can set an intention for your way to work. What could you use your commuting time for? To meditate? To read? To learn? To make an important call? To prepare for your first meeting? To sleep?
- You can set an intention for that meeting with your boss or customer. How would you like it to go (instead of worrying about how it might go)?
- You can set an intention for the next 5 or 15min. What could you get done without any distraction? Who could you give this time to and be completely present with?
- You can set an intention for your lunch break and decide to really connect with your co-worker today and allow yourself to see them in a completely different light.
Most of us are unconscious for the better part of our days.
We just rinse and repeat habits, behaviors and processes. That makes us feel like life is happening to us.
When we are more conscious, we notice we have a choice. We can now make life happen.
- We can choose who we want to be in any given situation.
- We can choose to do things differently.
- We can choose to be more present and make better decisions.
- We can choose kinder words before they come out of our mouth.
- We can choose not to worry, even if it’s just for the next hour.
- We can choose not to hit Send on that email.
- We can choose to use our time in a more meaningful way.
Fall in love with this moment!
In his book The Honeymoon Effect, Bruce Lipton explains that we are a lot more conscious when we are in love:
We are more self-reflective. We want to make a good impression. We want to make the other person happy. We want to create wonderful experiences together. We also worry less and are a lot healthier.
Unfortunately this period of being in love wears off after a while and we become unconscious again…
But there’s nothing to stop us from deciding to fall in love with this day, and to approach everything we do today with more consciousness or mindfulness instead of the usual mindlessness.
Successful people live with intention.
Successful people have an overall intention for their life, their work, their relationships and themselves. They are conscious of the impact of each of their actions and behaviors.
They are conscious of what they invest their time in. They assign a purpose to every action they take.
And yes – playing Candy Crush can have a positive purpose if it helps you relax and switch off from a busy day. (I have decided it falls under Stephen Covey’s category “Sharpening the saw” :)) As long as you are aware of its purpose.
Here is a simple way to become more conscious of your actions. Just ask yourself:
a) Will it make me feel good?
b) Will it make the other person feel good?
c) Is this in line with my intention? Will it get me where I want to go?
It may be a, it may be b, or it may even be a win-win-win situation. It really doesn’t matter. When you’re conscious, you will know why you decided for either one. It will not just happen; you won’t say, “I don’t know what I was thinking” later.
When we’re unconscious, though, the real question that our behavior responds to is, “Will it make my ego feel good right now?”
And that is what makes us eat that muffin even though we know better.
It makes us send that nasty email even though we know better.
It makes us blurt out words we will later regret.
It makes us lose time on unimportant stuff so that we ask ourselves in the evening, “What did I do all day??”
Bringing more conscious awareness to our day makes us happier, more productive and helps us manifest what we want. It also makes us a lot kinder – to ourselves and other people.
Why don’t you give this “intention setting”-thing a try today?
Just put a few reminders in your phone and let them go off at different times during the day. When your phone beeps, ask yourself, “What is the purpose of what I’m doing right now / or am about to do?” If you can’t find a positive purpose, do something else and use your time & life energy better!
Do you want to change your life?
Start with this moment!