Why Positive Attention Is Important

At last night’s New Year’s party, a friend of mine asked me what my priority for 2011 was, and after a short think, I said “Me!” She nodded and said, “Yes, same here!”

Sometimes, we get so distracted by our daily lives – reacting and responding to other people’s demands (be it our boss at work or people in our private lives who need our attention or help) that we forget to take a step back and think, ‘What do I want? What is important to me? What do I want to create in my life?’

So, let’s first get you into the mood of starting to pay attention to yourself. Let’s call this the “Ode to Me”. :)

We often feel that we have no time to pay attention to our own needs, because we’re just so “busy”. Then the new year comes around, we make some nice resolutions that last for 1 day – the bankholiday on which we might have some extra time for ourselves – and the day after, when we go back to work, we’re all caught up in busy-ness again and everything starts from scratch. We’ve become victims of our circumstances, instead of creators of our life and experiences. I wrote a short post on that a few days ago.

Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First, Before Helping Others

Now of course we all like to be there for other people and we do want to make a difference in the world, however if we keep forgetting about ourselves and always try to please or live up to other people’s expectations (which sometimes even are imaginary and only in our heads…) sooner or later we’ll burn ourselves out and won’t be able to GIVE anymore to others.

If we’re not “whole” and healthy, we won’t have any strength and resources to be there for others anymore.

How Giving Positive Attention Affects You And The People Around You

So paying attention to yourself first is not selfish. On the contrary, it enables you to make better contributions to the world around you. This is exactly why they tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first in case of emergency on airplanes, before helping others.

I’m A Goal Keeper – For You

If you’ve known me for a while, you know that I’m not only a coach but also a goal keeper. Yes. A goal keeper. I collect people’s top 10 goals for the year ahead and keep them safe for them until exactly a year later, when (most of the time) they have all forgotten about them.

I love their suprise time and time again when I give them their lists back and they go, “Wow! I really did most of those things!” On average, 70% comes true. Why is that? Here’s the essence from an earlier post I wrote last year:

First of all, there’s more committment (if you make it so important to actually write it down). “Committment” is a different department of your brain than “fleeting ideas”. Plus, writing is a multi-sensory activity, as you use your imagination, your feelings (when you imagine how you’ll feel when you have those things that you want) and your motor nerves and muscles.

The more senses you engage in something, the more it gets engraved into your subconscious. And whether you remember consciously what you wrote down or not, your subconscious (or the universe…) will work on your behalf to attract those things into your life.

And of course, if you then share this list with someone and make yourself accountable, you’ll up your chances of “making the list come true” even more.

Your Turn – Send Me Your Goals!

Now, if next year was all about YOU, YOU, YOU – what would you love to create for yourself? What would you like to be, do or have by the end of 2011?

Take a few minutes and write down 10 things that you’d love to have happen in 2011. Write them in this specific format and send them to me (with a valid email address to which I can send it back to in a year’s time).

You’ll be amazed what you can create when you decide to take ownership of YOU and your life.

PS – If you don’t wanna do this on your own and you’re in the Den Haag area – join uns on January 13 when we’ll create some positive energy all together!

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